How does change make you feel?
I find change is a fascinating thing: many of us love change and get excited about it while simultaneously resisting change. In both business and life, it’s important to step back, plant our feet for a moment and and check in with ourselves to ask if we’re resisting and why.
Sometimes when we’re pivoting or about to make really bold decisions, our fear of success can edge into our minds and sow some seeds of doubt. However, other times we’re resisting an idea because our intuition is recognizing that it doesn’t feel right.
Ask yourself why this change doesn’t feel good.
At first, the answer might simply come back as “it just doesn’t feel good energetically”. That’s okay to start but give it a moment and dig into why because there’s an opportunity to get a deeper, better answer! We’re typically taught to just trust our intuition but it’s far better to learn to ask our intuition questions. Rather than just settle with something not feeling good and not doing it, we can learn why we’re not taking action now or whether we’re just self-sabotaging ourselves because we’re nervous about being out of our comfort zone or going through big growth.
We often enjoy and resist change simultaneously.
When we’re presented with an opportunity to explore new things and change, we often swing between craving the new experience and telling ourselves that we hate change and appreciate the comfort we have.
Rather than commit to trusting ourselves, we lose the ability to leap without looking. However, especially in business, the biggest growth often comes from taking those uncomfortable leaps.
Think beyond your circle.
One exercise that I use when I’m trying to make a challenging decision comes from Napoleon Hill: rather that turning to the same group of people–who likely start to sound the same–for advice, create an imaginary stakeholder’s table. Gather five or six people that have opinions you would value and imagine the conversation. The key to this being a useful exercise is including surprising diversity to the group. For example, you could include your grandma who always has your best interests at heart, a politician or leader that you admire, and then add at least one abrasive voice that always rubs you the wrong way. That dissenting voice will always point out the random things and the little snags – these will provide an opinion that contrasts from your point of view and force you to think outside the box. Create a table of stakeholders that will make you focus more in the moment than staying stuck ruminating in your mind.
When I’m experiencing fear over change and the unknown, I investigate why I’m experiencing that resistance and talk to my imaginary stakeholders; more often than not, it’s some form of self-sabotage. If you’d like to hear an example from my business, you can listen to the original Facebook live where I discussed this topic here: https://www.facebook.com/MarissaLoewenOfficial/videos/652939308163475/
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